tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1480537922342493351.post3318747687330107582..comments2023-10-23T13:13:43.014-07:00Comments on Mei In China: Tuesday in NanchangMutha Maehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18071091659191752451noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1480537922342493351.post-46761449415912190802007-06-28T07:17:00.000-07:002007-06-28T07:17:00.000-07:00Hi Jaden! I love reading your blog and being able...Hi Jaden! I love reading your blog and being able to share in part of your experience. The bonding and attachment stuff seems very normal. They are definitely going to have good and bad days. Your right, she is probably terribly confused and very sad. It definitely sounds as though she is making progress and forming attachments to both of you. It just takes time!!! Katie gave you some wonderful recommendations in terms of things to do to promote healthy attachment. Just hang in there. It is hard to know what each of these girls went through prior to their placement and each grieves so differently. <BR/><BR/>Can't wait to meet her in person. She is absolutely darling!!!!<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>RebeccaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1480537922342493351.post-79499903557618259482007-06-26T11:41:00.000-07:002007-06-26T11:41:00.000-07:00Oh ya - I'm sure you know all of this too but - Ma...Oh ya - I'm sure you know all of this too but - Major eye contact when feeding. Try not to let her hold her own bottle. (if she is )Sofiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08700757040159861321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1480537922342493351.post-71635033896526074852007-06-26T11:40:00.000-07:002007-06-26T11:40:00.000-07:00Hi - sounds NORMAL to me. I think that these react...Hi - sounds NORMAL to me. I think that these reactions are GOOD. I mean some sort of reaction is good. To see her going through some sort of adjustment - instead of just acting normal - does that make sense? These are the things that helped me with bonding in China that really seemed to work:<BR/><BR/>1. Does she mind being touched - even if she does keep after her. I would rub S. down every night after her bath with baby lotion. I found the lavender kind in CHina and used that. Remember the baby massage class we had?<BR/><BR/>2. Huge bonding steps were made when I took a bath with her and held her on my chest in the tub. I know you know all of this already. <BR/><BR/>3. We played with band aids - I let her stick them on me and peel them off, etc..<BR/><BR/>4. Taught her where mama's eyes were, etc...<BR/><BR/>Basically it sound like you are headed in the right direction. You have to figure she would make strides slowly - if she was perfect about bonding from day 1 then I'd assume there was some underlying problem. I've heard of others mentioning the babies being afraid of Chinese people getting too close. It does make you wonder what her life has been like before now doesn't it?Sofiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08700757040159861321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1480537922342493351.post-57055257464793889922007-06-26T08:26:00.000-07:002007-06-26T08:26:00.000-07:00You know, reading this blog has made me cry a few ...You know, reading this blog has made me cry a few times. :) Anyway, it sounds to me like she's a smart kid and somehow she's gone from being happy to remembering the orphanage and she's scared to go back. She wants to stay with you guys, but she doesn't know what's going to happen next.. Hell, it would make *me* moody if I were in here shoes. Poor little Bug. I showed Grace her picture and she said, "Awww, she's so beautiful." And she is. You're a lucky, lucky family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1480537922342493351.post-70611712118245209722007-06-26T05:38:00.000-07:002007-06-26T05:38:00.000-07:00When can you bring her home?! I think she needs ho...When can you bring her home?! I think she needs home, ya know? <BR/>I'm so happy for you, and her. :)Arlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04267260043852739527noreply@blogger.com